Archive for May, 2007

Attraction plus Obstacles Leads to Excitement.

Thursday, May 31st, 2007

In my last Blog “Why is Western Civilization so Extreme Violent?” I wrote about Guilt or Sin.  If Guilt is transformed into Freedom Sexuality becomes an Art, a Way to Express Human Creativity.

In the “The Erotic Mind” (Jack Morin) Sexuality is seen as a general human expression. Morin has developed an “Erotic Equation“: Attraction plus Obstacles Leads to Excitement.

Morin found out that sexual obstacles in one’s youth create lifelong scripts for arousal, while a range of feelings including anxiety and anger can intensify arousal.

Morin advises readers to confront the unresolved feelings that produce “troublesome turn-ons” and offers a guide to modifying or expanding one’s erotic patterns.

In long-term relationships, Morin observes, passion is always going away; he advises couples to recognize and address the interactive tension between Intimacy and Sexual Desire.

The most important transformations of feelings that have to occur to find Pleasure in Sexuality are: Anxiety -> Security, Weakness-> Strength, Guilt/Sin-> Freedom and Anger-> Appreciation.

The Erotic Equation shows a general pattern to become Excited.

To become enthusiastic we need an Obstacle to Take. We need a Resistance.

If Everything is Repeating we get Bored and loose our Passion. If we get bored we get into a state of trance and loose our Strength.

If there are no obstacles to take People are turned into Robots. Robots that are programmed to have sex or perform procedures according to the rules of the programmer. If this succeeds they can be removed and the Program takes over.

The Programmer can be found everywhere.

The first Programmers are our parents. They program their lost expectations. They didn’t make a career and we have to make a career. They didn’t go to University and we have to get a title and even better become a professor.

The second programming is done in School. Sexual Education kills the Art of Sex because we are told “How it Works”. First we have to fall in Love and later we get Children and we go on Loving each other.

We are not told that (Morin) passion is not something we get. We have to invest in Passion.

In the end couples get stuck because the Programmer has formulated the Rule that when we marry we have to stay together “to the end”.

The most effective programmer are the Media. Porno shows how (mostly males) have to perform (!).

The most successful shows and movies stimulate the Romantic Mind and mostly Girls start to believe that Getting Married and Having Children is the Rule.

How can we avoid to get Programmed?

It is easy.

Define an obstacle and start to remove it.

Climb the Hill, Smash the Wall and see the Beautiful Territory that is there to Discover.

But one thing is very important.

Find a partner to travel with. If he or she gives you deep trust which has passed the test of time, loyalty built on shared experience, mutual compassion, and the feeling of a safe haven in the face of life’s unpredictability, the Sky is The Limit.

If Partners avoid the pitfall of turning each other into Parental surrogates who alternate between offering Safety and Imposing Burdens, both can enjoy and savour the best what relationship has to offer.


About the Dance of Innovation

How to Resolve Conflicts

About Mathematics and Excitement

Why Psychiatrists are unable to Cure their own Mental Diseases

Why is Western Civilization so Extreme Violent?

Wednesday, May 30th, 2007

Violence can be seen in every area of life.

We converted people to the Christian Faith of “Love thy Neighbor” with Violence.

We cure Diseases with Violence (Opening the Body, Taking Toxic medicine), we use Violence to create Food and now we even use Violence to Enforce (!) Peace (Afghanistan, Iraq).

Violence to enforce Peace is the last invention of what a friend of mine calls the Dark Dreamers.

Dark Dreamers are people that cannot handle Love and Compassion. They are afraid to Lose Control.

To Stay in Power they have to Suppress Others. To suppress others they need Violent People (Killers, Soldiers, Food for Cannons).

Violence is a reaction to suppression and the most effectual suppression is the suppression of sexuality.

In “The History of Sexuality“, Foucault states that Western Culture has long been fixated on Sexuality.

In China, Japan, India and the Roman Empire sexuality has been seen as an “Ars Erotica”, “Erotic Art“, a special experience.

Sexuality is something to Enjoy like good food, music and theater.

In Western Society something completely different has been created, “Scientia Sexualis“, the Science of Sexuality.

It is based on a phenomenon diametrically opposed to Ars Erotica: the Confession. The pleasure of Sexuality has to be confessed and examined in every detail to find the traces of SIN.

The confession of sin creates a power relation between preacher and confessant.

Foucault writes: “We are an extraordinarily confessing society. Confession has spread its effects far and wide: in the judicial system, in the army, in medicine, in pedagogy, in familial relations, in amorous relationships, in everyday life and in the most solemn rituals; crimes are confessed, sins are confessed, thoughts and desires are confessed, one’s past and one’s dreams are confessed, one’s childhood is confessed; one’s diseases and problems are confessed”.

The main focus of the confession was on regulating the sexuality of the married couple, ignoring other forms of sexual relations.

Therefore the body of women was sexualized because of its role as a child bearer.

The concept “hysteria” was invented and seen as a result of sexual problems.

To prevent that children experience sexuality as a pleasure parents are warned about the dangers inherent in masturbation and other sexuality.

The sexuality of adults becomes an object of study and all forms of “perverse” aberrations are seen as dangers.

Foucault emphasizes that the aim of these moral codes was not to abolish all forms of sexuality, but to protect health and the purity of the race.

What can we do to stop this violence?

Don’t Confess Anymore. Talk Freely about everything you Enjoy even Sexuality and consider life as a beautiful experience.

Make Love not War.

Leave the System of Violence and join The System of Love and Compassion.

If you want to bring Peace to the World go to the under-development countries and help to build Roads, Schools, and Houses.

The people over there are Not Violent (Remember this is the Message of the Mass Media) they want to Enjoy Life Like You.

The Sad (?) Insight of Ludwig Wittgenstein

Tuesday, May 29th, 2007
Ludwig Wittgenstein

Ludwig Wittgenstein

In 1921 Wittgenstein thought that the Tractatus Logico-Philosophicus had solved all the problems of philosophy.

Later in his life (The Philosophical Investigations, published 1951) he came to the conclusion that he was utterly wrong.

He found out that language itself is the problem.

Language is woven into the fabric of life, and as part of that fabric it works relatively unproblematically.

Philosophical problems arise when language is forced into an abstract environment, where all the familiar and necessary landmarks and contextual clues are absent. The tragedy is that almost nobody understood Wittgenstein at that time.

One of his students in Cambrigde when he still believed in abstraction was Alan Turing. He invented the Turing Machine, one of the foundations of computers and computer languages.

Computer Languages and everything created by a Computer Languages suffers the Problem Wittgenstein identified.

I was a witness to an important part of the history of computing. I was responsible for many what I now would call abstraction-projects.

I have been extremely busy with the creation of E-Learning, Knowledge-Management, Centers of Expertise, Educational Games based on Story Telling etc.

They all failed in the end but the creation-process was fun.

One of the inspiring persons I spoke was Mr. Ikujiro Nonaka. His book The Knowledge-Creating Company was just published.

He showed that knowledge could be divided into formal (again abstract) and informal knowledge.

He defined a 2X2 matrix of the knowledge-tranfer process.

The most difficult of course was the transfer of informal-informal knowledge.

My big mistake was to believe that informal/informal knowledge-tranfer could be supported by a Computer System.

The Computer System itself is formalizing everything. Many years later (about 5 years ago) I came to the same (sad?) conclusion as Wittgenstein (and Bahktin).

What can we do? The only way to transfer “knowledge” is to talk person-to-person in a secure environment.

Some people will understand each other and become friends. They are a small Centre of Expertise.

Many people will think(!) they understand the other. They will go their own way until they realize, perhaps when they are 56 (like me), that in the end your mostly wrong and sometimes right.

Keep meeting and talking! And realize The Creation Process is always Fun.


About the War of Words

About the Foundations of Mathematics

How the Proof of the Pudding is Really in the Eating

How to Analyze a Context

Resting in the Centre (citations out of the Zhuang Zi)

Saturday, May 26th, 2007

A friend gave me the Dutch translation of the Zhuang Zi (translated by Kristofer Schipper) for my birthday. In the cover we read “The classic book about Taoism”. Trying to be with the Tao is something I strive for all my life. Getting to know Chinese philosophy started when I was about twenty.

I discovered the I Tjing (and of course Jung) and started to read.

My first manager at ABN was an old Colonel of the Intelligence and he taught me everything about Tzun Zu. Tzun Zu is about fighting a war without fighting. Let your opponent waste his energy until he destroys himself.

I always believed that most of the time you have to do nothing because things go their way (this is called Wu-Wei). I could manage many people and huge projects without spending much time. At a certain moment in time (called the Magic Moment) there is a fork (Chaos Theory) and a choice can be made. The fork can be felt. It feels like there is a lot of flux (Something is coming on don’t know what it is but it’s getting stronger (Blood, Sweat & Tears)).

Clever Managers don’t do anything (they delegate) and only act at the Magic Moment.

When I encountered the Unknown the Zhuang Zi opened itself to me. I understood what was told and what was meant by The Dawn, The Centre, The Loner and The Light.

The message of the Zhuang Zi is very simple and very complex. It is simple if you experience or want to experience the Unknown.

It is utterly incomprehensible when you are still Thinking.

Here are some citations (Translated out of the Dutch text, sorry) that could be helpfull to get out of Thinking.

“Without the Other there is no I and without the I we can’t see a difference”. Every Other is a Mirror. In this Mirror we project Our Self.

“From the moment we have received our body we keep waiting for the moment that we die”. The Fear of Dying is prohibiting us to Live.

“Speaking is not blowing air. People that utter words say something. But what they are saying is changing all the time”. Theories are constantly changing because Words are unable to express What IS. When we become Silent (“Meditate”, “Reflect”) we know everything because there not much we have to know.

“Every creature is “the other” for “the other” and every creature is Yourself for Yourself”. You are the Source of Everything.

“If you take the perspective of the Other you can’t see Yourself”. Don’t look Outside. Look Inside. Everything that is Outside can be found Inside.

“The Other emanates out of Yourself and Yourself depends on the Other”

This is the Law of Complementary Opposites. Just as Life produces Death and Death produces Life and Wrong produces Right and Right produces Wrong. There is no Right and Wrong. They are the sides of the same Coin but we are unable to see the Coin. We are constantly flipping from one side to the other side.

“If this is true, is there really “The other” and “Yourself”?

“If we merge the Two we enter in the Centre of the Wheel (The Tao)”.

“In the Centre there is no movement”.

“We come to rest and live in the Light”.

The Only thing we have to do is to Stay and Act out of our Centre, The Heart.

I will tell you a little secret.

The Zhuang Zi contains many references to an old civilization called MU. In the City of Xian (mentioned in the Zhuang Zi) the Chinese have for a long time hided a White Pyramid that contains the same pictures as the famous Pyramids of the Mayas.

Stop, Watch and Go on

Saturday, May 26th, 2007

gurdjieffI am re-reading The Gurdjieff Work of Kathleen Speeth.

Gurdjieff was a Greek-Arminian mystic and a spiritual teacher that lived between 1872 and 1949.

He combined the teachings of the Esoteric Christian tradition of the Essenes, The Naqshbandi Sufi Order and Tibetan Buddhism.

His most famous statement is that most people live in a state of “waking sleep“.

He has defined a system to get fully awake.One of his exercises is the Stop Exercise.

The Stop Exercise is very simple. Somebody calls “Stop” and you stop immediately. The Stop Exercise shows the pattern you are in. The Stop Exercise can be applied to many area’s.

For instance:

Leave your lover and see what happens with him or her or

Don’t go to work and see if things go on the way they did.

If nothing changes don’t go back because you are just not needed. Find something else where a Stop matters.

The Stop Exercise can be compared with what is know in Signal Theory as the Delta Pulse. The Delta Pulse is an Event that occurs in a very short time with a very high intensity. A good example is the use of Explosives to find out what is inside the Earth (Oil, Gas, ). It is shown that a Delta Pulse shows the Essence of a System and the Essence of the Human System was exactly what Gurdjieff wanted accomplish.

Many people think that The Essence of a human being is perfection but it is sadly the opposite. Perfection is a part of the personality. It wants to stay tuned to its environment. The Essence is just “What it is” and “What it is” can be very annoying to people that are striving for perfection. Essential People can be very brute.

In the The Law of Seven Gurdjieff explains processes. It states that ups and downs in life and relationships occur lawfully. At certain steps (every 3) schocks (or stops) occur. If nobody does anything the process simply stops. To move on people have to invest time and motiviation to remove the hurdel. A very high hurdel is the 7th step. The System has gone full cycle and has the ability to jump to higher level or the System breaks down. The Seven Years Itch is shown in all types of relationships (marriage, company,..). It is the final test for endurance.

What can we learn: It is wise to stop for a while and see what happens. If everything goes on don’t go back. If a process stops it is wise to find out if it is 3th step. If so put all your efforts in removing the hurdle and things will go on for three steps.


About the Delta Pulse

How to Manipulate Almost Everybody

Friday, May 25th, 2007

I have always been fascinated with the process of MANIPULATION. The main reason is that I don’t want to be manipulated and if you know how it works you can prevent yourself.

The New York Review of Books (May 31, 2007) contains an article by Michael Tomasky called How Democrats Should Talk. It reviews many books about Mass Manipulation of the Government. 

His analysis of the Democrats is highly to the point. Their failure is that they still believe in the Rational Mind and Ethics. The Republicans use their Rational Mind to stay in Power and use Emotional techniques to do so. They are the followers of Machiavelli.

It is easy to manipulate people if they are in a state of trance. It is well know that looking at a TV or Movie brings you in a trance-state in a few seconds. In the trance-state there is direct contact with the unconsciousness (I call this the Unknown). In a trance-state you can give “commands” or “subluminal messages” and people start to act according to these commands. Many people live permanent in a trance-state (called dissociation).  

The most important issue is “the message”. It has to be simple and resonate to a state of the unconsciousness. The simplest states that can be brought into resonation are FEAR AND DESIRE. Desire is related to having Sex (Male) and the Reproduction Process (Female).

Activating the Fear to loose a Secure state always works. So combine the FEAR to loose your Home, your Job (depreving you of Desire and Security), your Life (Getting Sick), your Self (becoming Crazy), your Love (Becoming Alone), your Children or your Home-land and combine it with an ACTOR (Jews, Bin Laden) that will do this and many people change from loving persons into killer machines.

Now we are still talking about simple things. Believe me all the simple things are used by the people that are not ethical or (the same) practical. Being practical and skipping ethics for one moment is worse than being not ethical.

There are very advanced techniques that are not discussed in the New York Review of Books because they are part of the US Media (!)). Believe me what is possible is beyond your imagination.

It is well known that the Russians and the Americans have spent billions to research the Para-Normal. They know that the Para-Normal is Normal but tell the public that it is not-Normal to prevent that everybody finds out have How Bad they Really Are.

An advanced psychic can penetrate the mind of a person and manipulate the mind. Ethical psychics don’t do that. They want to have consent of their “patient”. More effective techniqs have to do with the use of frequencies (Radio etc) that resonate with many people. Just put on the fear-signal (low frequency) and people feel agitated.

How can you prevent yourself from being manipulated. The most simple answer is STAY OUT OF TRANCE (be Aware, In the Now) and protect your mind from manipulation on a distance. Think for yourself. Make your own analysis of what is happening.

Most important is to keep contact with Mother Earth when you are Awake and shield yourself with the Love of The Light.

How to Remove The Mask We are Waring

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2007

Last night I had a discussion. Somebody asked me the question: Do you love yourselve? I could not answer this question.

On the rational level I don’t know what “love” and “yourselve” is. Lets try do define something. To define something I always use the website

The website defines the term “love” in the following way: O.E. lufu “love, affection, friendliness,” from P.Gmc. *lubo (cf. O.Fris. liaf, Ger. lieb, Goth. liufs “dear, beloved;” not found elsewhere as a noun, except O.H.G. luba, Ger. Liebe), from PIE *leubh- “to care, desire, love” (cf. L. lubet, later libet “pleases;” Skt. lubhyati “desires;” O.C.S. l’ubu “dear, beloved;” Lith. liaupse “song of praise”). Meaning “a beloved person” is from c.1225. The sense “no score” (in tennis, etc.) is 1742, from the notion of “playing for love,” i.e. “for nothing” (1678). Love-letter is attested from c.1240; love-song from c.1310. To be in love with (someone) is from 1508. Love life “one’s collective amorous activities” is from 1919, originally a term in psychological jargon. Phrase make love is attested from 1580 in the sense “pay amorous attention to;” as a euphemism for “have sex,” it is attested from c.1950. Love child “child born out of wedlock,” first attested 1805, from earlier love brat (17c.). Lovesick is attested from 1530; lovelorn from 1634 (see lose). Phrase for love or money “for anything” is attested from 1590. To fall in love is attested from 1423. The phrase no love lost (between two people) is ambiguous and was used 17c. in ref. to two who love each other well (c.1640) as well as two who have no love for each other (1622).

To make it simple lets take the meaning “to care”.

So we can rephrase the question as “Do take care of yourselve” and now the answer is simple “Yes, I try to do this”.

We can make it more complex by defining the term “self”.

The website defines it as “O.E. self, seolf, sylf “one’s own person, same,” from P.Gmc. *selbaz (cf. O.N. sjalfr, O.Fris. self, Du. zelf, O.H.G. selb, Ger. selbst, Goth. silba), P.Gmc. *selbaz, from PIE *sel-bho-, from base *s(w)e- “separate, apart” (see idiom).

To make it simple again we use the meaning “one owns person”.

So we can rephares the question again in “do you take care of your own person”.

Wauw now it becomes complex. What the hell is person?

Ok again we define the term: c.1225, from O.Fr. persone “human being” (12c., Fr. personne), from L. persona “human being,” originally “character in a drama, mask,” possibly borrowed from Etruscan phersu “mask.” This may be related to Gk. Persephone. The use of -person to replace -man in compounds and avoid alleged sexist connotations is first recorded 1971 (in chairperson). Personify first recorded 1727. Personable “pleasing in one’s person” is first attested c.1430. In person “by bodily presence” is from 1568. Person-to-person first recorded 1919, originally of telephone calls.

A person is a “character in a drama, a mask”.

So we come back with a new question “do you take care of your own mask” or “do you take care of the mask you are waring called self?”

Now we are getting somewhere.

We are all actors in a play and in this play and she wanted to find out if I was able to play the role of “a self” who is caring for “itself”.

In the play there are two actors “self” and “self” who are caring for eachother.

Next question. Who is watching the play (the observer)?

Again the answer could me “the self”.

So “self and self are caring for eachother and are also watching the process of caring.

Is this possible?

Now I want to direct you to a document I have written (sorry in Dutch) about thinking.

In Chapter 2 I cite Bakhtin (my favorite philosopher)).

Here are some of his insights. They speak for themselves.

‘All our dialogues are taking place against the background of the responsive understanding of an invisibly present third party who stands above all the participants in the dialogue… The aforementioned third party is not any mystical or metaphysical being (“although, given a certain understanding of the world, he can be expressed as such) – he is a constitutive aspect of the whole utterance, who, under deeper analysis, can be revealed in it. In our dialogical relations something absolutely new appears here: the supraperson, the supra-I, that is, the witness and the judge of the whole human being, of the whole I, and consequently someone who is no longer the person, no longer the I, but the other’

“The word in language is half someone else’s. It becomes “one’s own” only when the speaker populates it with his own intention, his own accent, when he appropriates the word, adapting it to his own semantic and expressive intention. Prior to this moment of appropriation, the word does not exist in a neutral and impersonal language. . . but rather it exists in other people’s mouths, in other people’s contexts, serving other people’s intentions: it is from there that one must take the word, and make it one’s own”

“In order to understand, it is immensely important for the person who understands to be located outside the object of his or her creative understanding — in time, in space, in culture. . . . Our real exterior can be seen and understood only by other people, because they are located outside us in space and because they are others”

“A context is potentially unfinalized; a code must be finalized. A code is only a technical means of transmitting information; it does not have cognitive, creative significance. Code is deliberately killed context”

My conclusion: The question cannot be answered because “love” and “self” are codes and to answer the question we have to explain a unique highly complex emotional context that is changing all the time.

We cannot code this context in a few words.

We need an infinite amount of words most of them never invented to explain a little detail of what “I am”.

I end with a statement of Goethe (another favorite of mine and Bahktin): “The highest thing would be to comprehend that everything factual is already theory. The blue of the heavens reveals to us the fundamental law of chromatics. One should only not see anything further behind the phenomena: they themselves are the theory”

I am what I am and it is what it is.

About Creation (Visiting the Engelenbak with my Daughter)

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2007

Last year my three children gave us (my wife and I) a present for our birthday (28-04 & 22-04). We went to the Rock Opera Tommy. Tommy was one of the revelations when I was young (I was born in 1951).

Tommy is about a young child that is a witness to a murder. His mother and her new friend kill his father. Tommy jumps into a huge dissociation and he becomes “blind, death and dumb”. His parents try out many ways to cure him but the “normal” approach does not work. In the end he is cured by what we now would call a shaman or a magician. Hearing and experiencing Tommy again was spectacular.

This year things have changed dramatically. My children gave me again a theater-experience but instead of being with eight people. We were with only two (my daughter and I).

What happened? My wife left me (minus 1). My oldest sun forgot he also booked a holiday in Rome with his wife (minus 2). My middle sun and his wife have become very religious and they don’t want to go to a theater anymore because they know they are cursing (minus 2). Last but not least my daughter’s boyfriend is also gone.

When we arrived in Amsterdam the sun started shining. The theater was in the centre (de Nes, close the Dam) and we sat and looked at what was happening. We enjoyed life extensively.

When we came at the theater (de Engelenbak, Place of Angels). The theater was sold-out. Many people were waiting in line. I gave away the tickets that were not needed and made two people very happy.

When we were standing waiting to get in I stood next to an old friend I did not meet for 30 years. He owned a café in Leiden (I am born in Leiden) where young artists could try-out their performance. Suddenly I realized the Unknown wanted to tell me something. The Engelenbak is also a try-out-theater. The amount of events that were “by accident” was too much now.

And yes the whole sequence of acts in the theater was highly meaningful to me.

It all started with a group that was imitating Blood, Sweat and Tears (my most favorite group in history!) singing Spinning Wheel. Spinning Wheel is about the Jumping out of the Cycle.

I saw young people doing a fascinating act with the diabolo (“the devil on two sticks”). They showed a very complicated trick called the vertax (also called Excalibur). The Diabolo is the symbol of the vortex, the Spinning Wheel.

The most fascinating signs of the Unknown were about Love. Many songs showed the wide variety of love between a man and a woman. The songs made me cry and laugh at the same time.

What did I learn that night?

I did learn that laughing, crying, singing, dancing, music, theater are the most beautiful things that the Unknown has given to the world. If everybody would understand this message the world would be a much better place.

And nobody was cursing so my second sun and his wife can come along the next time.